Access to information is far too easy today, both helpful and hindering.
There was once a time when knowledge and skills were passed down from generation to generation following such traditions as family names; Cooper – barrel makers, Fletcher – made arrows, Thatcher – thatched roofs, Plummer – plumber, etc.
In some cases such livelihoods are still passed down from parent to child e.g. farming.
I can pinpoint a number of strong role models whom I have looked up to, spent time with and been mentored by in the pursuit of being a better man, dad and teacher. All so that when the time came I could be that role model for someone who needed help, guidance or even just company.
Did someone teach them, did they study it at college??
I was chatting to a good friend of mine recently who was doing some much needed DIY in their home, stepping out into some very brave tasks (wallpapering) and I was intrigued to know how they did it?! Did someone teach them, did they study it at college or night class, did their parent/grandparent show them?
To my surprise the answer came back as:
So what’s gone wrong?? Apparently they asked their father, a well-aged man who has papered many walls, and my friend was told to just “practice”. When his reply was “I’ve never been taught, so how can I practice?!” the reply came back to him “Well, there are videos on Youtube”..
As a new dad, this cut me to the core.
What would my response be if my child asked me for help in their hour of need?
How often as dads is our attention, knowledge, time and patience called upon! Do we respond with little phrases such as “In a minute”, “It’ll be ok” or “What does it say on Google?”
We’ve all got skills, abilities and experiences we can share with our kids
Are we letting technology and the information superhighway step in and be our future’s role model? Or are we going to take the time in our schedules to teach, nuture and impart a good pattern for our children to follow.
Growing up, who were your heroes?
In 1997 The Foo Fighters song ‘My Hero’ was released and Dave Grohl dedicated it to ordinary, everyday heroes, as he himself never had musical or sports heroes growing up as a child.
We’ve all got skills, abilities and experiences we can share with our kids (regardless of whether or not we’re handy with wallpaper paste).
Personally I hope that my daughters learn from me that time spent sharing knowledge and helping someone in need is never wasted.
If I could end with a thought to pause on…
Growing up, who were your heroes? Are you likely to be your child’s hero?
By Dave Anderson